My second calling began in 2012 and continued through 2013. I’m beginning this second calling with the passing of my beloved dog, Tuffy, who was a 15-year-old Maltese, blind and diabetic.
The days I had Tuffy put down
Interpersonal skills are essential for maintaining a harmonious relationship with anyone. There are so many things that can go wrong. Everyone carries their own set of life circumstances, which influence the way they interact with others, from preconceived opinions of others to a unique set of language skills based on one’s upbringing.
HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATION PHOTOS
OF MY SIBLINGS AND ME
Peggy Day
Resides in California
Author of “When God Called” and Trustee of the Day Family Estate
Pamela Andersen
Resides in Indiana
NICK Day
Resides in WASHINGTON STATE
KERRI DAY
RESIDES IN ARKANSAS
During this period, I was employed by Sheppard Mullin as a word processor. I found out that my dad was being placed into palliative care. We were told that he had about six months to live. I began emailing my sister Pam, who lives in Schererville, Indiana, about acquiring the family slides that she had had in her possession since our family moved to California (minus Pam) in 1985. I intended to create a moment for my family (especially for my dad) to watch our old family slides from when we grew up. It didn’t end up turning out the way that I had envisioned, unfortunately. Doug and his daughter Laurel were whispering and giggling amongst themselves. I asked them to please be quiet, but they were bored, I guess. It ruined the moment, and dad wasn’t feeling well and wanted to excuse himself. I don’t think that Doug and Laurel understood how important this was for me. I flew to Chicago from San Diego to get these slides and wanted to create a good memory for my family.
August 7, 2012 – Watching Family Slides with Family
August 25, 2012 – Dealing with Diabetes Fatigue: Diabetes Self-Management
October 8, 2012 – I Was Baptized at Mission Hills Church by Pastor Sam Paschall
DAD PASSES AWAY —
OCTOBER 25, 2012
October 30, 2012 — Pam Shares Dad’s Indiana Obituary
Memories of Dad (“BEFORe moM”)
Dad and Hammond Tech High School Basketball
(No. 11 — my favorite number)
Dad in Drafting Class at Hammond Tech High School
Memories of Dad (“After Mom”)
(June 27, 1959)
Pictured from Left: Grandpa Derflinger (“James”), Grandma Derflinger (“Marjorie”), Mom (“Gussie Lee Derflinger”), Dad (“Lucian Prentice Day, Jr.”), Grandma Day (“Gladys”). Grandpa Day (“Lucian Prentice Day, Sr.”)
Mom and Dad Dating
Mom, Peg and Dad at Christmas
Grandma Day’s Kitchen at 1447 Truman Street, Hammond, Indiana
From Left: Betty Lee, Gwen Archambeault, Jerry Archambeault,
Hank Lee, Grandma Day (holding me), Dad
Dad
Going to Church
From Left: Dad (holding Pam), Mom, Gwen Archembault, Jerry Archembault
Me in the Foreground
Dad, Grandma Day, Jerry Archambeault in Grandma Day’s Living Room
1447 Truman Street, Hammond, Indiana 46320
Mom and Dad’s Kitchen at 3307 North Drive, Highland, Indiana 46322
Dad, Me and Mom at Christmas
3307 North Drive, Highland, IN 46322
Peg, Dad, and Pam
Dad Holding Pam at the Beach
Aunt Jan, Uncle Butch, Aunt Carol, Aunt Pam, Uncle Jim, Uncle Bob, Aunt Bev, Grandma Derflinger, Grandpa Derflinger, Uncle Ray, Aunt Betty, Dad, and Mom
At Henry’s House in Highland, IN
Dinner at the Henry’s House in Highland, IN
Dad, Mom, Pam and Peg at Grandpa and Grandma Derflinger’s Home at Christmas
Peg, Mom, Holding Kerri, Pam, Nick, and Dad
Celebrating with a Cake for Nick’s Birthday on Halloween
Dad, Peg, and Grandpa Day
Picnic with Pam, Peg, and Dad in the Foreground
Gwen Archambeault and Others in Background
Celebrating a Birthday at Dad’s Bar in the Basement at Duluth Place Home
Peg, Grandpa Derflinger, Nick, Mom, Dad, and Pam
Mom, Dad, Nick. Pam, and Peg at
Grandma and Grandpa Derflinger’s Home in Hessville, Indiana
Mom, Dad, Nick. Pam and Peg at
Grandma and Grandpa Derflinger’s Home in Hessville, Indiana
Dad and Mom Dressed for the Playboy Club in Chicago
Dad and Mom Dressed for the Playboy Club in Chicago
Dad, Grandma Day, Jerry, and Gwen Archembault in the North Drive Kitchen
Mom, Dad, Pam, and Peg at Grandma and Grandpa Derflinger’s House at Christmas
Dad, Mom, Grandpa Derflinger, Pam, and Peg Tent Camping
Uncle Dick (Dad’s Brother), Grandma Day, and Dad
Standing on the Beach in St. Petersburg, Florida
Peg, Mom, Pam, Kerri, Dad, and Nick
Nick and Dad Standing in Front of Dad’s MG, About to Go Golfing
Dad Walking Pam Down the Aisle
Kerri and Dad
Dad in a Photo Taken at General Dynamics in California
(Dad was a Nuclear Warhead Inspector)
Dad is on the Far Right
Pictured in Schererville, Indiana, at Pam and Eric’s House
Back: Peg, Eric (Pam’s Husband), and Pam
Front: Jason (Pam and Eric’s Son), Dad
2015
January 30, 2015 — Mom’s Consultation with Doctor re: Possible Surgery
February 20, 2015 — Photo of Mom’s Incision from Bypass Surgery
February 21, 2015 — Mom is Ready to Return Home after Bypass Surgery
April 13, 2015 — Mom Getting X-Rays on Foot and Knee
April 15, 2015 — Beauty Talk (Fighting the Signs of Aging); Mom’s Friend Annie’s Wake
I need to explain the comment in the following email. Nick writes, “I WON’T RUIN MY LIFE WITH HER IN MY HOME. BUT I COULD HANDLE HER IN MY RENTAL.
It pains me to see Nick’s comment. My mom was devoted to my brother much more than she was to her daughters. Nick was considered hyperactive by all of us. I recall mom dressing him in his snow suit during the winters to let him tire himself out. She never put him on Ritalin, which she could have done. My mom and dad could never agree on how to discipline Nick. Every time my dad wanted to discipline Nick, Mom would give Nick whatever he wanted. At 10 years of age, Nick wanted a BB gun. Dad thought he was too young, but Mom bought him one anyway. Before Mom died, I asked her why she favored Nick. She told me that one day he will be the “breadwinner” of his family, so she wanted him to have everything he needed. The idea of being a “breadwinner” in this day and age is an outmoded way of thinking, as families today have a different dynamic. Often, a woman supports a family.
September 12, 2015 — Mom and Me Making Plans for Church and IHOP Breakfast for Mom’s Birthday
September 13, 2015 — Mom’s Birthday Breakfast
THE TURNER FAMILY
My brother Nick married Laurie Turner. Laurie has two brothers, Chris and Clay. Chris is the oldest and is a chiropractor. Laurie’s parents are Don and Doris Turner. Their son, Clay, had a troubling childhood. Sometime before he became a teenager, he was continually molested by a Boy Scout leader. Clay sued him and won a settlement, but it changed Clay’s life forever.
I knew that Clay was disturbed, and I befriended him around the 2012 Christmas holidays. I had met him earlier, at Nick and Laurie’s wedding. By the way, I’ve been married twice, and Nick never attended either of my weddings. I don’t really understand why, except I think it has to do with Nick’s self-consciousness about his weight. He has always struggled with his weight, and all of us children have, at one time or another, been overweight.
Shortly after my dad’s passing, I began writing a very long letter to family and friends to reconnect with people who had been in my life. Clay was helping me stuff envelopes and seal the envelopes with a wax seal I had purchased in Italy in February 2013. This was during a period of travel that began in 2012.
MY TRAVELS IN 2012 AND 2013
After my dad passed, on October 25, 2012, I began traveling the world to places I’d always wanted to visit. Dad told me before he passed that he’d always wanted to visit the Bahamas, which I never knew. In honor of my dad, my first trip was taken aboard the Disney Atlantis cruise ship. Biff (my second husband) and I were huge Disney fans and often bought Disneyland annual passes. In my mind, I am still a child. I don’t think I ever outgrow Disney or kids’ stuff.